High bride price commercialises, troubles marriages- Bishop Hiiboro

By Emmanuel Mandella

The Bishop of the Catholic Diocese of Tombura–Yambio, Barani Eduardo Hiiboro Kussala, has issued a passionate appeal for stronger, value-based marriages, warning that fragile family foundations and harmful cultural practices such as high bride price and forced unions are undermining social stability and fueling tensions among young people across South Sudan.

In his homily at the Holy Mass for young couples at St. Mary Parish Mother of God, the Bishop described marriage as a “pillar of peace,” stressing that stable families are essential for building cohesive communities in a country still recovering from years of conflict and economic hardship.

“Strong families create a peaceful society. When marriages collapse, communities also weaken,” he told the congregation, which included young couples, widows, parents, and church leaders.

The Bishop’s message comes at a time when many communities are grappling with rising social pressures, unemployment, and economic challenges that have strained relationships among young people.

Troubled relationships

Across South Sudan, church leaders and community elders report increasing disputes linked to marriage negotiations, unpaid bride price, and relationship breakdowns.

He warned that marriage should not be entered for material gain, social status, or physical attraction, but rather for mutual understanding, shared values, and long-term commitment.

“Marriage does not change a person automatically. You must know the character of the one you choose,” he said.

According to the Bishop, weak marital foundations often lead to domestic conflicts, family separation, and disputes between clans, which can escalate into broader community tensions.

A central part of the Bishop’s address focused on the growing concern over high bride price demands, which he said are placing heavy burdens on young men and turning marriage into a commercial transaction rather than a sacred union.

In many parts of South Sudan, bride price has risen significantly, making it difficult for young people to marry. This has contributed to delayed marriages, cohabitation without formal union, and, in some cases, elopement and family conflicts.

“Marriage is not for sale,” the Bishop said. “When wealth becomes the condition for love, families suffer and young people lose hope.”

He also condemned forced marriages, noting that unions without consent often result in long-term suffering, particularly for young women.

Church leaders say the current economic crisis has intensified pressures on young couples, with unemployment and poverty making it harder to meet traditional expectations. As a result, many young people are caught between cultural obligations and modern relationship realities.

The Bishop urged parents to guide their children on the true meaning of marriage, emphasizing preparation, dialogue, and moral formation rather than financial negotiations.

“Parents must teach their children that marriage is about responsibility, respect, and partnership, not cattle, money, or appearance,” he said.

He warned that when young people view marriage as unattainable due to high costs, it can lead to frustration, broken relationships, and social instability.

The Catholic Church has increasingly spoken out on social issues affecting families, positioning itself as a mediator in cultural and generational tensions.

The cleric called for open dialogue between elders, youth, and community leaders to review marriage practices in a way that preserves cultural identity while protecting human dignity.

He also encouraged couples to seek counseling, prayer, and mentorship before entering marriage, describing preparation as essential for building lasting unions.

“Marriage is a sacred vocation. It requires maturity, sacrifice, and faith,” he said.

The Bishop linked family stability to broader peace building efforts in South Sudan, arguing that reconciliation begins at home.

“In a country that has known conflict, healing starts with the family. A peaceful home creates a peaceful nation,” he said.

Community members who attended the Mass welcomed the message, saying it reflects the realities faced by many young people struggling to balance tradition, love, and economic hardship.

Local church leaders said they plan to expand marriage preparation programs and community dialogues aimed at reducing harmful practices and strengthening family life.

As South Sudan continues its journey toward stability, religious leaders say addressing the challenges facing marriages particularly among youth will be critical for fostering social cohesion and long-term peace.